What I Do
Writing and reflecting
Personal texts and articles to make ND reality visible.
Outreach on social media
On @espectreteadults I share my day to day life and raise awareness about neurodivergence.
Talks and workshops
Sharing experiences and breaking myths about neurodivergence.
Creative projects
From merch to images that give a voice to diversity.
Identity and diversity
Discovering my sexual identity, normalising it, letting it flow, and helping the people who follow me understand it better.
Breaking Myths
What often seems obvious is not always true. Autistic and/or ADHD people are surrounded by many myths that do not explain our everyday reality.
Here you will find small brushstrokes to break stereotypes and open windows towards understanding.
✦ Myth 1: “You are only tired if you work or study a lot.”
Reality: That is not always true. Autistic and/or ADHD people can end up exhausted just from living through an ordinary day: managing stimuli, interacting, organising ourselves... all of that also wears us out.
👉 Want to understand it better? Contact me and I will gladly explain it.
✦ Myth 2: “If you are ADHD or autistic, it is because you did not try hard enough at school.”
Reality: The effort was there — and a lot of it. But the environment was not always adapted to our needs. It is not a lack of will or ability, but invisible barriers that make the path much harder.
👉 Would you like to know what it really feels like from the inside? Write to me and we can talk.
✦ Myth 3: “Autistic people do not have empathy.”
Reality: We do have empathy, and often in excess. What happens is that we may express it differently or, at times, it overwhelms us so much that it is hard to show it in the way society expects.
👉 Want to know how empathy shows up in us? Contact me and I will tell you in detail.
✦ Myth 4: “An autistic person with level 1 support needs has no difficulties.”
Reality: Just because the difficulties are not as visible does not mean they are not there. The challenges may be subtle but constant, and they still affect daily life.
👉 Want to know what it is like to live with those invisible difficulties? Write to me and we can talk.
✦ Myth 5: “ADHD is only about lack of attention.”
Reality: ADHD is not only about being easily distracted. It also involves impulsivity, difficulties with time management, and a constant mental exhaustion from trying to stop the brain from wandering into random thoughts every second.
👉 Want to understand what living with ADHD really feels like? Contact me and I will explain it gladly.
✦ Myth 6: “Autistic people do not know how to communicate.”
Reality: We do communicate, but perhaps in a different way. Sometimes we do not use the usual social conventions, and that can make people think we do not communicate well, when in fact we have a great deal to say.
👉 Would you like to discover these different ways of communicating? Let’s talk.
✦ Myth 7: “If one day you are not active or productive, you are not worth enough.”
Reality: There are days when the only thing I can do is try to breathe deeply to regulate my sympathetic nervous system. And that is just as valid as another day when I cannot stop moving at all. Worth is not in the amount of activity, but in listening to and respecting what the body needs.
👉 Does measuring yourself by what you do sound familiar? You are not alone: it is also part of my experience.